Marriage is a covenant between you, your spouse, and the Creator.
No marriage is perfect. It's two sinners loving each other and forgiving each other.
You don't do alone time or private time in marriage. You and your spouse are one flesh. Hang out together.
If you don't keep adding wood to the fire, it goes out.
Love covers a multitude of sins.
No husband loves his wife like Christ loves the church. He should, but he doesn't.
Have a lot of sex. Then have some more.
Listen to people who've been married for 50 plus years. They gotta know something.
Hold your wife's hand. She likes that.
Don't let yourself go. Nobody's gettin' any younger, but that don't mean we quit combing our hair.
Love keeps no record of wrongs.
Marriage ain't about making yourself happy. It's about being happy, together.
Drink wine together. The good stuff.
Make anniversaries special.
Don't stop kissing.
Tell him/her "I love you" and let 'em know you mean it.
Get over the small stuff. Neither of you have it all together.
Open her car door guys.
Pray together, and for each other.
Go to church.
Forgive. Don't bring up the past.
Laugh together. Cry together. Laugh some more together.
Anybody can slow dance. Do it.
Go on dates. Leave your phone in the car.
Most of the time when I tell people that I use the moon for determining the calendar they look at me as though I'm from another planet; one time someone thought I was a Wiccan; go figure.
Most of the time this stems from just a simple lack of knowledge, a lack of knowledge that we all have at one point or another in our life. What we need to learn to do is research what we hear from others. This way we will not pass unrighteous judgment on someone for believing a certain way or ways.
Take this little bit of information about the moon for instance. We use the word "honeymoon" in our culture to speak of the vacation a newlywed couple takes. Have we ever stopped and thought about why we call this time period "honeymoon?" The word honey-moon (originating probably in the 1500's) is a compound word stemming from two words "honey" and "moon." The word "honey" refers to the sweetness of time (or according to some scholars the sweetness of wine) the newly wed couple will have. The word "moon" refers to the time period of the vacation. The word moon is where we get our derivative word "month." Months, in various cultures in the past, where determined by the length of the lunation period, about 29 or 30 days. We see then that we are acknowledging that months used to be determined by the moon every time we speak the word "honeymoon."
We don't ask ourselves enough, "Why do we use this word?" or "Why do we practice this?" The next time someone speaks something to you that sounds strange to your ear, take the time to research what they are saying before jumping to any unfounded conclusions.
What does the Bible actually mean when it says that a husband and wife become one flesh? I've heard people speak on this text and talk about how close a husband and wife become throughout marriage. They being to think, talk, and even sometimes act like each other. I myself have experienced this. My wife and I will be driving down the road and remain quiet for a time. After this we both speak up, and we speak up at the same time and say the exact same words! This has happened more than once in my married life, and it is astonishing each time, but as awesome as this is, this is not what the Bible means when it says that a man and a woman become one flesh (Genesis 2:20-24).
Adam made this remark when Eve was brought to him in Genesis 2, "At last, this is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. This one will be called woman (ishah in Hebrew) for she was taken out of man (ish in Hebrew)." This bone and flesh terminology is used elsewhere in Scripture thusly:
Genesis 29:14 - And Laban said to him, Surely thou art my bone and my flesh. And he abode with him the space of a month.
Judges 9:2 - Speak, I pray you, in the ears of all the men of Shechem, Whether is better for you, either that all the sons of Jerubbaal, which are threescore and ten persons, reign over you, or that one reign over you? remember also that I am your bone and your flesh.
2 Samuel 5:1 - Then came all the tribes of Israel to David unto Hebron, and spake, saying, Behold, we are thy bone and thy flesh.
2 Samuel 19:13 - And say ye to Amasa, Art thou not of my bone, and of my flesh? Elohim do so to me, and more also, if thou be not captain of the host before me continually in the room of Joab.
1 Chronicles 11:1 - Then all Israel gathered themselves to David unto Hebron, saying, Behold, we are thy bone and thy flesh.
Ephesians 5:28-31 - So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
It should be easy to see that the "bone and flesh terminology" has the meaning of kinship or family relation. All of these Scriptures are strikingly similar to Adam's statement about Eve: she is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. Adam was declaring that he was starting a kinship relation, and marriage should be looked at as a kinship relation with the individual you're marrying. Not just some kind of flippant possiblity, but an actual covenantal relationship. Let's teach our children just how close the marriage bond really is.
This past Saturday I had a conversation with a person I have not talked to in quite some time. As she was talking she explained to me that she had been reading a book regarding a woman's role towards her husband. What a breath of fresh air! In a world where it seems wives and husbands want to be everything other than a godly wife or godly husband, I hear a Christian woman explaining that she is learning how to serve her husband. I was doing jumping-jacks inside!
This woman told me that as she began to apply the Biblical principles of being the helper she was created to be towards her husband, the husband began to notice the drastic change. He even remarked to her, "What has got into you honey?" This question stemmed from recognizing an obvious change in the life, demeanor, and actions of his wife. This woman also shared with me that she firmly believed that if she obeyed Scripture in regards to her role as a wife that her husband would be changed by the manner she lived. I know this is true even for wives with unbelieving husbands. Go read 1 Peter 3:1-2. It's powerful.
BTW, the same holds true for the husband. Yahweh, give us husbands who love their wives. Yahweh give us husbands who serve their wives. Yahweh give us husbands who desire to please You with all their heart, showing their children what it means to be a man of Almighty Yahweh. Likewise, Yahweh, gives us true wives, true women of Yahweh.
Blog by Matthew Janzen. Lover of Yahweh, Yeshua, my wife and 5 children. All else is commentary.