A Short But Exciting Conversation
This past Saturday I had a conversation with a person I have not talked to in quite some time. As she was talking she explained to me that she had been reading a book regarding a woman's role towards her husband. What a breath of fresh air! In a world where it seems wives and husbands want to be everything other than a godly wife or godly husband, I hear a Christian woman explaining that she is learning how to serve her husband. I was doing jumping-jacks inside!
This woman told me that as she began to apply the Biblical principles of being the helper she was created to be towards her husband, the husband began to notice the drastic change. He even remarked to her, "What has got into you honey?" This question stemmed from recognizing an obvious change in the life, demeanor, and actions of his wife. This woman also shared with me that she firmly believed that if she obeyed Scripture in regards to her role as a wife that her husband would be changed by the manner she lived. I know this is true even for wives with unbelieving husbands. Go read 1 Peter 3:1-2. It's powerful.
BTW, the same holds true for the husband. Yahweh, give us husbands who love their wives. Yahweh give us husbands who serve their wives. Yahweh give us husbands who desire to please You with all their heart, showing their children what it means to be a man of Almighty Yahweh. Likewise, Yahweh, gives us true wives, true women of Yahweh.
Is it Pleasing to Yahweh?
I've talked to so many people about subjects like the Sabbath and the Festivals over the past 10 years and I've enjoyed many of these discussions. Some of them haven't born much fruit, but I can say that for the most part, fruit has been produced. Do I think subjects like this need to be discussed? You better believe I do. The Sabbath and Feast Days are important doctrines of Biblical faith. We are called as Yahweh's people to observe them with are all. There are passages in the Bible that reprimand Yahweh's people (Israel) for their disobedience to the fourth commandment. As a matter of fact, the land of Israel had to be allowed to keep "her" Sabbaths while the people of Israel were in bondage because of their neglecting to keep these land sabbaths.
Is it pleasing to Yahweh though to keep Sabbaths and Feasts while neglecting weightier matters in the law? I've met some people who only want to talk about Sabbaths and at the same time are not loving their wife and teaching their children the commandments of Yahweh. Personally, I do not want to listen to a man teach me about the Sabbaths of Yahweh if his house is not in order. I don't want to hear someone go on and on about how we need to keep the Sabbath and at the same time treats his wife like garbage and allows his children to be caught within the web of the world. This does not mean the Sabbath is not important, all it means is that our Sabbaths can become abominations to Yahweh because of the other things we are involved in.
Yahweh, at times, hated the Sabbaths of His people Israel (Isaiah 1). I'm not talking about Yahweh hating their false Sabbaths (that's a given); I'm speaking of Yahweh hating a persons Sabbaths when they blatantly disobey His law and expect everything to be okay if they show up for the holy convocation on Sabbath. A man can leave Sabbath worship and spend all week not being a good husband and father and His Sabbaths will be an abomination to Yahweh. A man can also spend all week backbiting, gossiping, getting drunk, hanging out with the people of the world, and His Sabbaths will be an abomination.
If we really want to honor the Sabbath, lets do it with the life we live. Let's not live for the devil all week long and think we can give Yahweh the Sabbath at the same time. You can't eat from the devils table and the table of Yahweh; it just doesn't work that way. Oh, you can choose to live your life in this fashion, but you will receive weeping, gnashing of the teeth, judgment, and destruction.
Communication in Marriage
I believe that one of the problems in marriages today is the lack of communication. A husband and wife should be the best of friends, they should be able to talk to each other, not in just saying I love you or "How did your day go?" but in all aspects of life. Talking to your spouse draws you closer to your spouse. Discussing situations that arise in life with the person you married is one of the best ways to let them know that you genuinely care about their feelings and thoughts.
What happens is that a husband may never even speak to his wife unless he is making a request for dinner. Likewise unless the wife needs some money she may never talk to her husband. What a way to communicate! I know that my wife doesn't only want to hear me ask her what she's cooking, she wants me to talk to her as my friend, and I want the same from her. I want to be able to discuss all things with her and in doing so draw us closer together in marriage. When a wife says to her husband, "I'd like to talk to you about something," us husbands need to respond in a more than willing way. We must make sure we give our wife the time she needs. We must make sure that we give her a listening ear and a "shoulder" to lean on if need be.
If a husband or wife is not willing to communicate where will comminication come from? Men will seek elsewhere and so will women. This means that problems will arise, disagreements will surface, and emotions will run high, but not in a good and holy manner. Take time out to talk to your spouse today. Let them know that you are there for them and that you really do care. If you've not been the husband or wife you are supposed to be then quit rebelling against the commands of Yahweh. Stop your wickedness, repent of your stubborness, and begin to do what is perfect in the sight of the Father.
Sometimes, Times Get Tough
There are so many things people go through in this life that are disturbing. What's even more disturbing is trying to figure out all the "why's" and "how's" of everything. I do not understand why we have to go through times that are difficult. That is, I do not completely understand. I do know what the Scriptures reveal and that is that difficult times can be for testing, and Yahweh can allow us to go through valley's so that we will better understand our desperate need for Him. I also know that Yahweh can punish people with a host of plagues for their wrong doing.
We often burden ourselves in an attempt to know particulars. People lose sleep over this or that, and can never find the relief they need because their mind is constantly racing at lightning speed, bogged down with questions that are humanly unanswerable. It is in these times that we need to practice the Biblical command to lay our burdens upon Yeshua the Messiah, and let Him carry the load for us. We should pray to Yahweh through Him, with a belief that although we do not have the answers, and never will for some things, He does have all the answers. Yeshua knows all of the answers to all of our questions and problems. He was tempted in all points just as we are yet without sin (Hebrews 4:15).
I just read the other day in Philippians where Paul wrote that we are to be anxious for nothing, basically meaning that we should not be constant worriers. The remedy Paul gives for someone who worries day in and day out is that they should in every thing by prayer and supplication let their requests be made known unto God. I can't tell you how many times I've heard this verse quoted or listened to a sermon that commented upon it. It's so easy to "amen" the verse when everything is going just right in your life, but how hard it is to actually believe it and practice it when it seems like your world is caving in around you and in our minds their is no way to get out. It is the difficult times though that need to find us putting the verse to practice, asking Yahweh to help us in any way that only He knows how. He's got the answer; He knows what you should do; He will lead us and guide us in the tough times. Trust in Him. Your going to be okay; you'll come forth as gold.
Blog by Matthew Janzen. Lover of Yahweh, Yeshua, my wife and 5 children. All else is commentary.